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Naming a kid is a significant life event that should be filled with pleasure, but it may also evoke unexpected feelings. In an effort to shock her loved ones, this new mother waited until the very last minute to reveal the name of her newborn daughter. But her choice to divulge it set in motion a chain reaction that may alter the course of her relationships and, by extension, her life.
Confide in your dad alone.
Get your dad to open up to you. Express your understanding of his feelings and tell him why the name Chris means so much to you and your spouse. Make it clear that making new memories with your loved ones is your top priority. Clearing the air and starting the healing process may sometimes be as easy as having an honest talk.
Pick a middle name or nickname instead.
One possible solution to the problem of your parents being uncomfortable with the name “Chris” is to use a nickname while they are present. Maybe his middle name, “CJ,” or even “Kit” might do. In doing so, you may make a modest concession to your parents and yet preserve the name that is important to you, which should make things simpler for everyone.
Kindly write a letter.
If talking about this feels too hard, try writing a letter to your dad instead. In the letter, you can let him know you didn’t know about the past but now understand his feelings. You can also explain that you chose the name Chris out of love and to honor your husband’s late brother. This way, he can read it when he’s ready, take some time to think, and hopefully start to accept your choice without feeling rushed to respond.
A lot has changed in parenting during the years. Things that used to be seen as “bad parenting” are now just part of raising happy, confident kids. It’s amazing how these once “unacceptable” ideas are now the new normal.
